“Women Are Now Cheating As Much As Men, But With Fewer Consequences” appears in a mainstream outlet, which is the only surprising thing about it. The venue may be surprising, but the content is not:
The crazy part, she elaborates, is not the apparent epidemic of adultery, but that it’s the women who seem to be fueling it.
It is, perhaps, another milestone in the march to equality. Women and men are now taking an equal-opportunity approach to extramarital hanky-panky. A report out of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University found that, for the first time in modern history, women are cheating at nearly the same rate as men. Another study, published in the National Opinion Research Center’s 2013 General Social Survey, found that while the percentage of men who admitted to infidelity has held constant over the last two decades, the percentage of wives who reported having affairs rose almost 40 percent. Gary Spivak, founder of FidelityDating, a dating website designed to help users “find a loving non-cheater” — typically after being two-timed — says that last year membership on the site was largely female. Just one year later, it’s an even 50-50 split.
Experts suggest there are a few reasons for this shift. There’s the internet, which has made finding a better and/or different partner easier than ever. There’s opportunity — more women are working outside the house, and meeting new partners in the process. And there’s economics. As women are increasingly filling the role of family breadwinners, they no longer “need” men the way they used to and so feel freer to take chances they might otherwise not. That’s the theory, anyway. Then again, a 2015 study by researchers at the University of Connecticut found that while, for men, breadwinning increases infidelity, for women, breadwinning decreases infidelity. (“By remaining faithful,” writes study author Christin Munsch, “breadwinning women neutralize their gender deviance and keep potentially strained relationships intact.”)
There actually isn’t much to elaborate or analyze. Read the article and read “Open Cuckoldry” and you’ll understand what is going on. The only remaining question is, “How should you react?”
I’ve said this before but it’s still true:
- Don’t get married.
- Don’t cohabitate.
- If you MUST get married or cohabitate, despite knowing that you shouldn’t, at least have a firm, actionable exit plan. You are only as good as your options.
- Demand DNA tests for any children “you” may father.
Finally, understand that there are really two kinds of men in this world: the ones cheated on and the ones cheated with. Which do you want to be?