“I Can’t Afford to Divorce My Rich Husband” is an amazing example of what RP guys like to call “female hamstering.” In this piece, “Eliza, 31, wants a divorce. Both she and her husband, Sam, have changed a lot since they got together in their early 20s.” But, “The problem is Sam makes a lot more money than Eliza. She teaches English at a high school, and she’s dependent on Sam’s income (he’s an investment banker) for a part of their expenses, including the mortgage on their house.”
The advice given to her is simple: take him for everything she can:
Bahn would know. Three years ago, her husband walked out, thrusting her into a financial bind: She had recently decided — with her husband’s encouragement — to quit her job to focus on her dissertation while he supported them. Without him, she couldn’t pay rent, let alone afford legal counsel. But before putting her Ph.D. on hold to frantically search for a job, Bahn discovered that she was entitled to support during divorce proceedings. This is known as pendente lite relief: The less-monied spouse (usually a woman) can petition the court to receive “reasonable” coverage for legal fees and living expenses until a divorce agreement is finalized. This is something you should consider.
So what does this woman, Eliza, bring to the marriage? Nothing. She doesn’t even have kids with her husband. She’s going to get a ton of money for putting nothing whatsoever into the marriage, except perhaps sex, assuming sex is worth anything.
This guy was probably young and dumb when he got married, and he probably didn’t realize how much money he’d end up paying when his wife loses interest in him. He’ll learn the hard way, like so many guys.
Guys should read this and remind themselves: Do not get married. At all. Ever.