From Nash: “Magnum Game with Black Dragon influence.” An excellent post. I love reading game writers because they make me realize my game is not nearly as strong as I used to think. Like, the offering two dates, two days apart is golden. So is the detailed text game. The two-dates thing is a good idea and the text game is better than mine. I’ve tended to do one date, time, and place, all in the same text, under the theory that it’s good leading. But it’s probably overly specific and does indeed run into walls at times.
In reading not just this but some of the other good game blogs, I’ve also realized that I’ve probably overly focused on chicks can be described sex positive (my preferred way) or sluts (a common female-female social framing I dislike). I’ve likely lost a lot of chicks due to sheer impatience. I’ve probably polarized too strong too early and likely driven a lot of chicks away. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve done fine, but there’s a huge gap between “fine” and “optimal” (a sentence I say over and over again at work).
My guess, reading posts like Magnum Game, is that I’ve leaned heavily into nutrition and sport/lifting and my technical game has atrophied or never sufficiently developed as a result. I have some serious strengths, like an ability to endure rejection and good cocky-funny, coupled with some weaknesses that I’ve never really worked on enough. Some chicks say no and I just move on. Often without putting in the Magnum work.
Like: in online dating, I’ve experimented with rope pics and mentions of BDSM. They’re extremely polarizing. A lot of chicks will ignore me or say mean things when I foreground those interests. But the chicks are into it, are really into it, and they’re usually ready for first-date sex.
It’s common and correct to point out that many chicks into rope and bondage are fat. But there are very pretty chicks who are into it as well and who are looking for guy with good game and a decent body who is on their level. That’s where I come in. I’ve found them at times and it’s been good.
A couple days ago I got rejected, hard, twice by very pretty girls on bikes. Also asked out one of my kids’ teachers (very gently and with a cheeky smile and long pre-amble about how she should feel free to say no, but I have to ask). She was flattered but also said no.