I really, really, really hope this comment is just a troll

I really, really, really hope this comment is just a troll. Because if it isn’t, it’s incredibly sad. Yet the state it describes also seems to be becoming more common.

There is another long and interesting comment from the same person here.

Author: The Red Quest

How can we live and be in society?

2 thoughts on “I really, really, really hope this comment is just a troll”

    1. My experience is real and it is also real that I don’t see a reason to go on. I am not sure if I want to talk myself into finding cause somewhere else. It is pointless for someone who basically knew that she wanted her own happy family since she was a child herself.

      I think I understood yesterday while reading through these pages and a lot more that he was already part of the seduction community back in 2006 and then all the details of our interaction that I didn’t understand for a long time just fell into their places. He gamed all the years and that was what I had to recover from afterwards. “The Game” was published in 2005 and then bestseller. Since he is quite aware of public culture I am almost certain that he knew about it earlier. He even told me PUA stories of friends. I just did not care about these things, so I forgot these stories fast. Otherwise I might have understand earlier what happened. I don’t want blame. I just know how effectively you can manipulate somebody into staying and never allowing the person to feel secure enough to understand if what is going on is actually what she or he wants. Fear does not allow to think clearly and make sane decisions.

      After him there was some kind of insanity in me that I couldn’t get rid of for many years and the only thing I knew was that I never wanted to trust and love as I did with him. Of course this didn’t make it easier to use the next years on finding something healthier.

      So if this comment serves to make somebody aware that he is taking something of irreplaceable value from the women he claims to enjoy then that is all I wanted to achieve with this. If a person is in love with someone to the point of addiction then the one who knows that he cannot reciprocate is the one who has to set the addicted one free. If he cannot then he is nothing than needy and desperate and certainly not somebody that deserves to be worshiped. These are things that most won’t understand when 25 and in love and they will regret it when they turn 40 and realize that they have been broken.

      As much as I understand and sympathize with this community, the way in which women are demonized does not create awareness that some of us really can and do love and it is particularly those who do that are vulnerable. It is too easy to claim that the anger phase will go away. The contempt, the misogynist attitudes remain and behind those it is next to impossible to get in contact with the real person.

      In my case it was clear that I always wanted to grow up, to become whole, before I have kids myself, that was my reason for waiting. My parents have remained children until now. It was also clear that I wanted to have kids with a father, ending that cycle my family has been into for generations.

      But it is also clear that the feminist literature I was reading as a teenager and young adult, together with the story of my parents, a man-hating women and a misogynist father, have essentially confused my sense for relationships, respect and men-female interactions generally. Nevertheless, it is me who made the wrong choices and who is as broken as she is now and cannot respect herself for what she has become.

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