Cause things change

I have an acquittance (not really a friend, exactly, but a friend of friends) who is one of those travel bores, forever flying somewhere and then telling everyone about her trip. But last time I saw her she was complaining about how it was harder to connect to people, how her “friends” flaked on her much more frequently, fewer people wanted to meet, etc. She attributes this to greater rudeness and the spread of social media.

I have a different explanation. She’s reaching into her late 30s now. She’s never been hot but was okay… I’ve definitely done worse. I’m not a fan of the concept of “the wall,” but she has hit it. Is hitting it. Suddenly, the ease with which she traveled is going down, because a lot of guys who used to grease the skids for her aren’t doing it anymore. Or they’re willing to do less for the same output. But she can’t figure out why. Or she chooses not to think about why.

She also has a long, complicated story about why things didn’t work out with “the love of her life,” which isn’t complicated. Now she’s older, has no real career, and maybe she’ll keep doing the travel thing. We’ll see where it gets her, in the end.

Author: The Red Quest

How can we live and be in society?

2 thoughts on “Cause things change”

  1. yea, the problem with people who get the “travel bug” is those they leave behind end up moving on, and those they seek to visit have lives to lead, and that doesn’t include this person flying in and out of their lives. I briefly tried to have a relationship with a “travel bug” person, but gave up when it was clear that travelling was always going to be her priority over having an consistent ongoing relationship with me. They make their choices, and have no basis to complain about it being harder to connect.


    1. With this woman, I’m not sure how much she really understands her predicament (and doesn’t want to admit it) vs. doesn’t understand her predicament. But if I were looking for a woman to have kids with, “Flying around the world and mounting strange, random dick” would disqualify her.

      Where does her money come from? She must have no savings, given her travel budget.


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