Discretion and the Secret Society

Years ago, a lover learned about a mutual acquittance I’d fucked before her. My then-lover was shocked and wanted to know why I hadn’t told her. My answer: I don’t gossip about sex and respect my lovers’ confidentiality. That kind of answer is terrible to use with most women, because it’s too logical, so I added that I will also respect her confidentiality. I’ll apply the same standards to all my lovers.

I told her to think about what will happen in the future, when she finds a provider guy to have kids with. Does she want me running around, blabbing to whoever, that we had sex?

She weakly argued that she wouldn’t care. I told her that both her and I know that’s not true.

It’s good practice not to tell current lovers the real, full names of past lovers. Let them find out on their own, if at all. If a girl gets mad about your past, promise them discretion in the future. Live that way and you will reduce problems for yourself.

The major exception to this rule is women who are deeply and congruently in the sex party scene. They are typically not as sensitive and will often be open to threesomes and group sex. For normal girls, however, reputation is paramount and guys who can shut the fuck up will help preserve their reputations. Let girls talk about the guys they’ve fucked.

As a guy, you also don’t need to brag about your past conquests to women. Women will be able to tell if you’re sexually experienced just from how you are.

Author: The Red Quest

How can we live and be in society?

One thought on “Discretion and the Secret Society”

  1. I learned this the hard way last night when I told a lady I’m dating that I miss the attention from dating apps. I was being facetious. It was a harmless joke, but she insecurely took it personal and I know she’s going to bring it up a few more times before she finally lets it go. I agree, discretion and withholding info is key.

    I also believe discreetion and keeping things to yourself helps in your favor because they feel you aren’t judging them and when they feel that they’re more likely to tell you, better yet divulge more information about themselves.

    I really like this girl so I actually apologized (not really my thing unless I’m really really wrong) and since we’re still in a honeymoon phase we’re still learning what we like and don’t like. I’m going to be taking a less is more approach with her going forward.


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