Online, I see a lot of young guys asking about chicks who seem uncertain, uncommitted, etc., and the guy asks what he should do. The particular guy who inspires me to record the algorithm said, “if a girl that ignored you all of a sudden started texting” and then “so if a girl that ignores you all of a sudden starts texting you, how would you handel it?” Evidently this guy is too stupid to have learned how to punctuate and capitalize his sentences in school, but we’ll ignore that and instead focus on what to do.
Follow these simple steps, particularly if you’re young and uncertain:
- Invite her over for a movie and drinks.
- When she comes over, hang out with her for about an hour. Start the movie.
- Try to put your penis in her. If you succeed, you succeed. If you don’t, you know she’s a waste of time, unless she’s moving in that direction and making forward progress.
If she doesn’t show up, her text out of the blue doesn’t matter. She’s fishing for attention and can be safely ignored. If you keep giving her digital attention, you are not using your attention effectively. If she comes over to watch a movie, then she might be for real. A woman may reach out to you because she’s bored and wants attention, but she may also reach out cause she’s up for sex but needs you to make it happen (women rely on men to lead).
Follow the “moving to the stage where my penis is inside her” algorithm and you can’t go wrong. Anything that is not a “yes” is a “no.” Get a “no?” Find/approach more chicks. If you realize she is a “no” who is fishing for attention, you win because you can safely ignore her. If she comes over and you have sex with her… then you also win.
Older and more experienced guys may modify the algorithm… I usually invite the chick over for a drink, as I’m not in high school / college. Does she not agree to get a drink at a specific time or place? Then I go hit on new chicks. Does she agree and not show up? Then I go hit on new chicks. Does she agree, show up, but is not interested in me sexually? Then I go hit on new chicks.
You get the idea. The answer to most forms of female bad behavior is, “Go hit on next chicks.”
It is usually easier and better to meet new chicks than to give chase to uninterested chicks, who will become less and less interested as attention increases. If you like to gamble or have some of the troll in you, you can send something like this to chicks who don’t show up or are on the fence (though I have been thinking about other paths recently).
Does she come over, and then I put my penis inside her? Okay, we’ve gotten somewhere. If she’s making forward progress towards sex, that is also okay (the two of you make out, though she pulls back and says, “Not tonight”). But I divide chicks into two categories… chicks who I’m attracted to and want to f**k and have a shot at f**king, and all other chicks. If she doesn’t show up, if she’s not sexually engaged with me, etc., then she is in category #2 and I can safely ignore her, because no matter how hot she is, no matter how into her I am, I’m not going to f**k her. If she is in category #1, then the algorithm applies. The algorithm is good at dividing chicks between those who I might actually f**k and those who are looking for ego boosts, attention, flattery, etc.
“Then I go hit on new chicks” is prominent advice, because a single guy is as good as the next chicks in his pipeline, so work that pipeline and know most chicks are likely to say no. That is the nature of chicks. Chicks select, men propose. Propose a lot to find the open and willing chicks. You are hunting for the yes.
Why does she text you out of the blue? Why is she suddenly chatty online? Who cares, if you’re not going to f**k her? The “why” is not very important, unless the reason is, “to let you have sex with her.” She may be testing guys, she may not be interested in you, she may be searching for attention… you may also find that, if you’re f**king another chick, she suddenly becomes a lot more interested: pre-selection and social proof, the player’s old friend. If you are waiting around and feeding her lots of unearned attention… she may become less interested. She doesn’t need sex to keep your interest. Why offer it? Attention is crack to many chicks.