“It is not your job to match your boyfriend’s libido.” Yes, it is.

At least the guy in “It is not your job to match your boyfriend’s libido” was not stupid enough to marry this woman, because his relationship with her is likely OVER. Unfortunately, the woman dispensing advice to another woman is just reinforcing the bullshit view that it’s a great idea for a woman to repeatedly refuse her man sex… which is going to lead to the end of the relationship.

Soon, she likely to be doing 100% of the housework, because the man is going to leave (if he has any balls… maybe he doesn’t).

A man, however, is only as good as his other options, and this mainstream press piece reminds us that in today’s world we must always have and be cultivating other options. You cannot give up. There is no coasting. It may hurt to imagine that, but it’s true.

If the genders had been reversed, it would of course be the man’s responsibility to match the woman’s libido, and, if he cannot, it would be her right to seek satisfaction elsewhere.

To give the woman her due, it’s reasonable not to want to be routinely woken up for sex in the middle of the night if you’re not into that kind of thing… but a reasonable woman would also say, “Instead, I want to have sex in these times and ways, and I’m making it work for both of us.”

Author: The Red Quest

How can we live and be in society?

2 thoughts on ““It is not your job to match your boyfriend’s libido.” Yes, it is.”

  1. The routine narrative in our society has become: women shouldn’t give a shit or be expected to do ANYTHING for men, but on the other hand, men should drop EVERYTHING and be the perfect white knight, good guy for women.

    It’s astonishing to me that guys allow themselves to get played like this, but when that’s the dominant theme they hear all the time I guess it shouldn’t be that much of a surprise.

    A couple of observations here:

    1) Even though this woman is complaining about her partner wanting sex, what she’s really complaining about is the fact her partner is needy and feels entitled to sex. My guess is he’s probably not doing a very good job of it either, but the lesson for the player is that if a woman senses that you expect sex from her, you’re doing it wrong. She should want to give you sex, like the girl I had over last night who “surprised me” by dressing up as a schoolgirl and letting me bang her.

    2) Still, the irony is that the fact this guy is pushing for sex is a good thing for the relationship–even if it annoys her. There’s one time when every man–no matter how much of a pussy–is an alpha, and that’s when he’s on top of a woman and inside of her. Plus, even though he’s displaying entitlement in the wrong way, entitlement is still an important aspect of alpha character.

    3) Women only screw themselves with this sort of mentality. They think they’re becoming more empowered, but really what they’re empowering themselves to do is be alone and bitter for most of their adult lives, peak sexual thrills coming from romance novels and vibrators.

    Here’s the basic breakdown: A) become more like a man, B) scorn male attention and masculinity, C) reject the notion women owe men anything, but D) expect the perfect Chad to come along, sweep you off your feet, and marry you so you can live that perfect Instagram life.

    That is not a recipe for success with men, or frankly for a fulfilled, happy life. In fact, it’s a recipe in which the woman is constantly fighting her own nature and feels bitter and hateful toward men (and herself) because she cannot and never will have what she’s been told she’s entitled to.


  2. I like Dalrock’s phrase: “Feminists are ugly because they are miserly with love.”

    I don’t think it’s representative of the majority of women yet, but it’s representative of the majority of lifestyle journalists, and at least a little of it percolates throughout the whole US culture: the feeling that a woman is betraying her sisters if she gives too much to a man.


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