35-year-old New York City woman can’t understand why she’s single. That’s not the given title, it’s “I Hate Dating Apps So Much!” This woman hates dating apps because she’s older, she’s probably living in NYC (tough dating market for chicks, good for guys), and the guys she really wants prefer to date younger, hotter chicks. From her teens to her early 30s she was probably used to dating guys +1 or +2 above her, and now that is not happening and she’s frustrated.
The writer is likely suffering from diminished sexual-market value, as she says, “I know that, as a reasonable, open, attractive woman, if I keep trying, I’ll find someone eventually.” She will find SOMEONE if she assesses herself correctly, or moves to Seattle, where hordes of desperate men will happily wife up older women. The advice-giver says, “Building your own belief system is the exit route.” This is the typical bad advice chicks give each other, and it’s bad advice because it doesn’t consider the environment in which the first woman exists. It doesn’t consider stage-of-life questions. It doesn’t consider what else the writer is probably doing wrong in the men she most prefers.
Both women exist in the land of emotion and not the land of information and they suffer for it. It’s sad to watch women offer such ineffective counsel to each other, like it’s sad to watch guys attempt to solicit dating advice from chicks, since chicks often don’t know or won’t admit what they really want, as opposed to what they tell guys they want.
6 thoughts on “35-year-old New York City woman can’t understand why she’s single”
She didn’t invest in long term relationships and a community. She invested in ephemeral experiences. (I have warned guys and women both about this).
I have made and conceivably am making some mistakes like this.
But people who invest a lot in the long term and don’t have enough visceral fun can also come to regret it.
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Depends on what your definition of “fun” is. I know too many people of both sexes that waste their youth with stupidity. It sticks out like a sore thumb with women, especiallu when they make mistakes and not learn from them. (Ive made mistakes but Ive made better financial and personal decisions that have set me better than many other guys).
A bit off topic,
I thought I’d put myself out there, since my first post is a thank you. Out of the sidebar blogs I’ve also started reading Magnum recently, as well as Red Coco. You guys lead with honest writing. Thanks.
Wow, talk about rambling article. But!
“Building your own belief system is the exit route. *blah blah blah* Include copious amounts of strenuous exercise. Include the making of veggie lasagnas with your friends’ 3-year-olds. *blah blah blah blah* ”
Is this how women tell other women they probably need to lose some weight? By burying it in a huge amount of rambling nonsense, so that they can take the advice without getting all huffy puffy about it?