Personality Girl and Default Friend have a hilarious podcast with Delicious Tacos, a podcast covering many topics, including how women don’t (maybe can’t) understand what life and horniness as a man is like, alcoholism, writing, groupies, face, sociopathy, work, and Houellbecq (the key philosopher of the last 50 years, no one else who hasn’t done pr0n counts). My replies are disjoint and won’t make sense without listening to the podcast.
Hot, emotionally mature girls aren’t on the market much and aren’t drunk or snorting coke. Guys with alcohol or substance abuse problems are attracting girls who will accept those, and it’s dangerous to draw conclusions from that biased sample… I try not to generalize too much about women based on the women I’ve been with in the last ten years, because most of them are at the very least curious about or accepting of non-monogamy, while women who want a conventional family and children aren’t going to put up with that shit. Delicious Tacos lives in L.A. (all the normal girls stay out of California). The conversation is a very big city conversation, cause normal girls who want a husband and family live in the midwest, or Texas, or Florida, or any place that it’s possible to live a middle-class existence and have a family… they’re not in the big famous cities. That’s where the sluts are, and the people who can’t afford to have kids, so they might as well do all sorts of weird sex things. I’m one of them, I’m talking about my own here, but I’ve also spent lots of time in smaller cities where women in their 20s walk around with their children in strollers and their husbands next to them. Most of them are 10 – 40 lbs overweight, which is gross, but that’s where they are.
Despite all that I have a piece coming up in the next month or two about how I was dumb to not have figured out mdma earlier in my life, cause, used judiciously, that’s where many of the easy lays are. Lots of hot chicks lack personality, or drive, or the ability to admit the sex they want and get it, and need some external aid to get there. Trying to talk to a lot of hot girls age 18 – 24 isn’t easy, cause their knowledge base consists of inane gossip and an interest in drinking and drugs. That’s it. It’s hard to build commonality from that. Solution? A lot of conversation that uses The Game + insinuations of drinking/drugs now, or in times to come. I should’ve learned this earlier… in many ways I’m a slow learner.
Very true: pussy begets more pussy. Absolutely. Sex clubs are apotheosis of this. DT gets this. He says something like, the difference between 0 pussy and 1 pussy is a million times greater than 1 and 2, and pretty much everything in game is about moving from 0 to 1. Red Quest might be less interesting cause it’s mostly about moving from 2 to a million, via sex clubs + non-monogamy.
Agree that guys who get a lot fuck a lot of chicks, almost all of varying quality levels.
Delicious Tacos should get a counseling degree and do counseling for men. He’d be great at it, and he’d get out of the corporate grind office job, become more of a prophet than he already is. I’d refer guys to him. “You want to get laid, get your life in order? Talk to this guy, Delicious Tacos.” Would he be popular, though? Most therapists seem to need to take 20 sessions to get to the obvious, because they have to wait for the person they’re talking to to get to the idea on their own… I think Delicious Tacos would be like, “Your family’s fucked up, go learn the deadlift, and get in touch with your feelings that way.” If more guys mastered the deadlift and pullup we’d have less need for therapy.
His voice is peculiarly similar to mine, as are many of his life experiences, although I’ve never had alcohol or substance abuse problems… although I have been accused of being a sex addict (DT discusses “sex addicts” on the podcast). I don’t think I am, though, because I usually have some standards, and after I get my fill I go read a book or whatever.
He says that he used to get groupies when he showed his face… but then he sadly got doxxed… I’ve speculated to other guys that, to build a bigger following it’s necessary to show some proof-of-lay and become a public figure. Krauer and Tom Torero did that. Andy from Kill Your Inner Loser has done the same. I don’t think I care enough to want to take red quest to the next level that way, but it’s useful to hear ideas echoed. Like Balaji says, “we’re going to need to build a pseudonymous economy, where over the medium to long term, you separate out your real name, your earning name, and your speaking name. And in fact, you have multiple earning names and multiple speaking games, just like you have multiple usernames at different sites.” Balaji goes on,
Let’s say, for example, you have a large Twitter following, and you boot up a new pseudonym, that pseudonym starts with nothing. And so it takes you time to boot up a new following, that’s a whole effort, that deters a lot of people from doing it, they’re starting all the way from scratch. And I thought about this problem, because the thing is that with cryptocurrency, we’ve actually solved this where you can set up a username and another username and you can use ZCash to transfer money from one name to another pseudonymously.
So money can be transferred, reputation though didn’t seem to be, until I realized that actually you might not be able to do it for followers, which are non fungible, that to say, one person is not, like, the same as the other, but you could do it on a site like Reddit, where you had Karma that was accumulated. And so someone who had 10,000 Karma under one pseudonym just like you use ZCash to transfer digital currency, ZCash was basically like the truly anonymous version of Bitcoin, the truly private version of Bitcoin. Just like you use ZCash to transfer cash from one name to another, you could use ZKarma to transfer Karma from one username to another and thereby a reboot under a new username.
Seriously, that Balaji podcast is some of the best and most mind-blowing stuff I’ve listened to, so go listen to it after you’re done with the Delicious Tacos interview… if you have a choice between long-form Balaji and long-form Red Quest, Balaji is the right way to go, on all topics apart from getting laid. Some people are badass enough to go by one name, sorry to the rest of the Balajis of the world.
Delicious Tacos also mentions that online dating stopped working effectively around 2015, which I’ve speculated about too, “I’ve had some success with regular online dating many years ago, and no success from regular online dating recently, and by recently I mean in the last six or so years. Sometime around 2015 I had enough things going on in real life that I had by then mostly quit.” Search red quest for “2015” or “2014” and you’ll see other examples.
His story sounds like Tucker Max’s (remember him…?), lots of debauchery, followed by some “what am I doing with my life?” desire to start a family.
Delicious Tacos hates his working an office job for money. What’s missing from the podcast, maybe his life? Craftsmanship. Of a physical sort. It’s a topic in Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance but more than that it goes back to Plato, one of history’s first big cucks. Craftsmanship can be done in spare time, and it can turn into full-time work. It doesn’t need to be furniture making or whatever. It can be making amateur internet porn. Seriously, some of the top verified amateurs or onlyfans ppl are craftsmen, forever trying to better their last creation. Lack a sense of craftsmanship and life will seem more meaningless than it would with craftsmanship. These people should learn woodworking or whatever. Bookbinding.
The top programmers and engineers are craftsmen, the money follows the craft. Unfortunately, the pussy doesn’t follow the money in their case, unless it’s paid for.
Although many people complain about work, very few live like Mr. Money Mustache and radically decrease their spending. Decrease spending far enough and the need to work goes way down as well. This works best outside of expensive Los Angeles. The problem is often not work, it is spending. DT doesn’t appear to have learned bike repair and physical dwelling repair, as Mr. Money Mustache has… if you hate work, there are ways to structure your life to minimize it. But it seems possible to minimize spending or maximize sex, but it’s difficult to do both at once, or at least I don’t think I know anyone who is really doing it. How big is DT’s circle of control?
Contributing to a larger community, like xbtusd says. W/o community, alienation, etc., and you can only having f**king be your main source of meaning for so many yrs. If you try to spend your whole life chasing pussy, instead of doing some family as well, you’ll likely end up some combination of miserable and, worse, pathetic (“likely”… if you’re the exception, fantastic, you’re the exception). How long it takes will vary by guy… some guys can be players successfully into their 40s or even 50s… despite saying that, if the reader really doesn’t want to have kids, don’t, there are sadly too many kids resented by their parents for merely existing. Someone who doesn’t affirmatively not want them should give it a shot.
How many marry out of tiredness or desperation?
I know a couple people who moved from alcoholism/substance abuse to becoming workout freaks, so maybe there’s something to the idea of the addictive or extreme personality. Or maybe it’s random variations and salience bias.
A meta comment: this post is almost like the old days of blogging… Default Friend and Delicious Tacos have websites separate from the major “social” media platforms (only Personality Girl is slacking in this regard, cause she does Twitter not blog). I’m replying on a site that’s also separate from the major data hoarders. There should be more independence and less Facebook leviathan. We can do better. Get off the big sites, be informationally independent, that’s what Balaji thinks crypto can help us do, we can do it ourselves in the ways we can right now.
Link again to the DT, Personality Girl, Default Friend pod ep. I read DT’s book THE PUSSY, it’s a fine book but one I think I read when I’d become too old and too earnest to love it. Earnestness is in today, existential irony is out. Onlyfans is the expression of earnestness in the smut market, fake San Fernando Valley surgically altered bimbos are the expression of existential irony.
4 thoughts on “Delicious Tacos talks to Personality Girl and Default Friend about getting laid and other things”
Nice post with a lot of references, enjoyed the podcast above as I did with Delicious Tacos’ podcast last week with Bronze Age Pervert:
DT is more pessimistic than I am and I agree with you something in his makeup is missing the paths to fulfillment (although I’d say he’s nailed craftmanship…I’ve read all his books and they’re quite good).
DT has mentioned elsewhere he has 300+ notches, and yet he can’t find a partner. That tells me there’s likely something in his own makeup that’s preventing this, it’s not just living in LA. You’re right that it would be easier in a “normal” place like Texas, but I’ve seen firsthand it can be done in California as well.
Looking forward to listening to the Balaji podcast, thanks for the link
DT’s remarks/observations are independently consistent with many of mine, which is interesting to me, for obvious reasons. Most of what I say and observe on Red Quest, I can’t talk about in real life, for obvious reasons. Or I guess I could technically talk about what I say here, but I’d prefer not to be a social leper. A lot of “very online” people seem like they’re probably social lepers in real life, which helps explain many of their takes.
A lot of people need some kind of physical craftsmanship, I think. For women, knitting, whatever, some kind of making of things. For guys, mechanical stuff, whatever. For me, it’s often cooking… of course the results of that don’t last.
I don’t know whether I identify as pessimistic or optimistic… probably optimistic… again, compared to the vast majority of history, things today are great and amazing. There are some countervailing trends, yes, but the overall direction is unambiguously positive. But I think a lot of social/sexual mores are bound up with the culture and technology of many decades ago, and a lot of people, guys especially, have not adjusted, so I guess red quest is an effort to think through how we could/should adjust to modern conditions and problems. E.g. modern people are inundated with horrible high-carb food, but a modern person who rejects that has better and more wholesome cheap food options than he had at any other point in human history.
DT sounds like hasn’t _really_ wanted to find a partner for most of his life, and I don’t remember if/when he said when that shifted. Being in L.A. can’t help. Obviously many ppl in LA find partners, spawn children, etc., but it helps in anything to go with, rather than against, the prevailing culture of a place, if possible.
The Balaji podcast is probably the best, most interesting podcast I’ve ever listened to. He’s an extremely deep, heterodox thinker, not beholden to ideology apart from truth & knowledge. I have a piece on it half-done, not sure whether I’ll finish.
I like the Default_Friend and Personality Girl podcast so far because even when I disagree with them, they aren’t repeating the boring talking points others are. They’re not politically correct, but they’re also not reactionary right-wing authoritarian (the right response to something undesirable is often not to attempt to be whatever its “opposite” is perceived to be, but to be some other thing, that is more right, truthful, etc.). They’re pretty funny, often in an understated way, a lot of the time. All virtues, in my view.
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