“My husband pressured me into sex for years” #DontGetMarried

There is a vile article on Vox.com, “My husband pressured me into sex for years. #MeToo must include sexual assault in marriage,” which I’m not going to link but you can find if you must hate-read it. You get the basic idea from the headline. The article dovetails nicely with Rollo Tomassi’s point, “You cannot … Continue reading ““My husband pressured me into sex for years” #DontGetMarried”

Location and logistics, married guys

A reader asks for more, “I know this is a terrible topic but . . . game for married guys seeking extramarital experiences.” I don’t think this is my area of expertise but here goes. Point one is, “Don’t get married,” but that’s already done so we’ll ignore it. Always start from where you are, … Continue reading “Location and logistics, married guys”

“The Married Woman Who’s Been Cheating for 6 Years”

“The Married Woman Who’s Been Cheating for 6 Years.” Like I’ve said, don’t get married. The risk-reward ratio is way out of whack. Notice that she’s trying to conceive while at the same time having an affair. I’ve written this before, but there is a real chance that a woman I met at a business … Continue reading ““The Married Woman Who’s Been Cheating for 6 Years””

Really, really, don’t get married–take it from a woman

I spoke of Esther Perel’s book, The State of Affairs, last year, but I was looking at it again after recommending it to a friend. Somehow I missed this the first time through: Danica is hardly the first woman who shuts down at home and wakes up outside. Hers is archetypal tale of the muting of … Continue reading “Really, really, don’t get married–take it from a woman”

“What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity”

“What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity” doesn’t go full Red Pill, but it gets closer than is typical. This also supports my basic point: don’t get married. Some guys still believe that long-term monogamy is possible today. I don’t. Once a guy accepts that, a lot of other things will fall into … Continue reading ““What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity””

Women having affairs never make you use a condom

Women having affairs never make you use a condom. I met Carol in a coffeeshop, where she was reading uncommonly cerebral things for a hot chick. I think I have a pavlovian response to coffeeshops, because I’ve done well in them with picking up chicks. And if I don’t, there’s still the sublime reward of … Continue reading “Women having affairs never make you use a condom”

XBTUSD on his first non-monogamy experiences

XBTUSD has a follow-up post, which will make sense in the context of his earlier post. TRQ asked about my first experience with non monogamy where I was with a girl who was not my partner. I started to move into ethical non-monogamy (ENM) by changing the structure of the “dating” phase of relationships. Where … Continue reading “XBTUSD on his first non-monogamy experiences”

“We expect too much from our romantic partners”

People are getting married later, people are having kids later, some people aren’t marrying at all, lots of people (especially women) who want kids aren’t having them… why? Smart guys know that marriage is a bad deal but many have to learn this the hard way… I’m interested in the deeper reasons, like that we … Continue reading ““We expect too much from our romantic partners””

The male analogy: young guys blowing their military cash

There’s a male analogy to the sex workers mentioned in What the thinking escort is thinking… young guys who enlist in the military and blow their cash. I’m chatting with a guy via email and he brought up the Netflix documentary Hot Girls Wanted… it’s a sad film… the number of women suited to doing … Continue reading “The male analogy: young guys blowing their military cash”

Priorities and what you bring to life (Katie’s story)

Women who prioritize families and long-term relationships, and who have reasonable expectations of the men they date, get married and have families and do their best to stay married. Those women are out there, but they’re not much discussed among the red pill / seduction / masculinity communities because they’re mostly invisible to us… Red … Continue reading “Priorities and what you bring to life (Katie’s story)”