“He Cheated in an Open Marriage” gives you a flavor of what happens when a higher-status guy is getting older and is in an “open” marriage/relationship. If a guy keeps working on his game, body, and value, his sexual market value (SMV) will outpace his wife/partner’s from age 30 onward. Or age 35 onward, depending on the couple. This produces a strong incentive for the guy to push the relationship’s boundary.
The greater the disparity between the SMV in a couple, the greater the temptation to do such things.
The venue in which the story is being published is also notable, as the whole issue is devoted to what’s happening to marriage (from women’s perspective, naturally). Under current divorce law, every woman who makes less than her partner is incented to marry that partner if she can. No woman wants to directly admit that, however.
Poly/open is becoming more common in the overall culture. Smart guys will figure out how to leverage this trend.
Your male competitors choose video games, fast food, and Internet porn over real-life sex. That’s my takeaway, and the media is too straight-laced to speak the truth. Most chicks are getting f**ked by a smaller number of dudes than they used to. Do you want to be one of those dudes, or do you want to play video games and jerk off?
Next time you want to play video games, hit the gym and track your progress on the bench press and dead lift. Watch those numbers go up and to the right.
I am not fond of the ubiquitous “alpha” and “beta” male labels, yet sometimes they just fit, as they do with this week in the life of a subsidized beta male. There are two notable things in this story, or, I should say, absent from this story: the gym never appears and cold approaching never appears. This guy could likely improve his life substantially through both. He doesn’t, and he doesn’t understand chicks, so he is a safe, boring choice for chicks who have nothing better to do. He has a fake, girl-like job, and that fake, girl-like job should give him some access to chicks but he seems not to leverage it. This is a guy who needs to learn to stop hiding his dick.
He lets a Tinder date come over, sleep in his bed, and he doesn’t bother f**king her. No wonder she’s unimpressed and disappointed. She came over to get f**ked and he couldn’t even do that. This is an example of “what not to do;” if a chick comes over to your apartment to spend the night, she wants to get f**ked. He seems to be getting some sex but he lacks the fundamentals and killer instinct needed to consistently f**k, and f**k hotter chicks.
At age 18 or 20 this guy’s mistakes could be seen as part of growing up, but at age 30 they are pretty sad.
Weird. A woman writes an essay about toxic femininity and how “Women are not monolithic. Pretending they are holds everyone back.” It could be a worse essay, but I’m surprised to see it at all.
“When the U.S. falls into a recession, a credit bubble will explode.” This is outside my typical purview, but it has been long enough since the last recession for everyone to have forgotten its lessons. In the mid-2000s, I knew lots of ballers who were buying very expensive cars and a lot of stupid people who suddenly got into “flipping” houses, because real estate is a can’t-lose proposition, right?
Except for the way real estate value tanked in ’91. The way it eroded in value during inflation in the ’70s. The way it really fell in the ’30s. Even in the ’01 recession, it at best held steady.
A lot of those ballers in the mid-2000s were bankrupt by 2009. Right now, I’m seeing a lot of the same signs: stupid people eager to get into real estate. Too many cars being bought relative to the number of drivers. Student loan debt problems are already well known.
You make a lot of money by being bold when everyone else cowers, and by being cowardly when everyone else is bold. Right now it seems like a lot of people are bold… I’m going to cower over here in the corner and let the ballers do their thing. People with cash on hand during recessions can make the real money. I wasn’t able to do so last time. I might not be able to do so this time.
Part of game, IMO, is being able to stand aside from the herd. The same thing is true in financial markets. Most guys never learn about 1. Game. 2. Evolutionary biology. 3. Cooking/food. 4. Finances. in school. We then pay for our ignorance throughout our lives.
“The Problem With Feminine Women” matches my experiences (sorry for the bullshit sales popup on that blog… seems annoyingly common these days). If you’re a guy who wants feminine women, you have to be a masculine guy. Pretty much what you read here. The more experience you have with women, the more you understand this.
Hell, you don’t even need much experience with women. Just go about your everyday life and notice who is paired up. Usually the feminine women have masculine guys (and vice-versa), while the androgynous match up. Most people are within five or six years of each other’s ages. Etc. Some things, of course, cannot be changed… you cannot change your age. But some things can… it is possible to date hotter-younger chicks. That is what you’re learning from game. But many guys, maybe most guys, if you’re going to get the hottest chicks, you have to be the best dude… you start off working for the chicks, then you end up working on yourself.
At least the guy in “It is not your job to match your boyfriend’s libido” was not stupid enough to marry this woman, because his relationship with her is likely OVER. Unfortunately, the woman dispensing advice to another woman is just reinforcing the bullshit view that it’s a great idea for a woman to repeatedly refuse her man sex… which is going to lead to the end of the relationship.
Soon, she likely to be doing 100% of the housework, because the man is going to leave (if he has any balls… maybe he doesn’t).
A man, however, is only as good as his other options, and this mainstream press piece reminds us that in today’s world we must always have and be cultivating other options. You cannot give up. There is no coasting. It may hurt to imagine that, but it’s true.
If the genders had been reversed, it would of course be the man’s responsibility to match the woman’s libido, and, if he cannot, it would be her right to seek satisfaction elsewhere.
To give the woman her due, it’s reasonable not to want to be routinely woken up for sex in the middle of the night if you’re not into that kind of thing… but a reasonable woman would also say, “Instead, I want to have sex in these times and ways, and I’m making it work for both of us.”