Anjelica Huston, like most chicks, doesn’t like boring guys
I guess you didn’t like guys who were—
Dependable. Secure. Yeah. No. I never found those ones to be sexy. I like the difficult ones.
If you are a boring dependable guy, top chicks are unlikely to be accessible to you. Being boring is just about the worst thing a guy can be today. So don’t be.
Keep this in mind if you read the rest of the Huston interview, where she goes on and on about how bad this guy and that guy was. Chicks aren’t dumb (a common refrain on this blog): they know who the exciting cheaters are and who the boring faithful guys are… and they often choose the exciting cheaters. Most of the time, when you hear a chick complaining about some demon of a man, she knew what he was like before she started f**king him, and she chose to do so anyway.
Huston likes “the difficult ones” like most chicks do. Game is the process of teaching guys to be one of them, and not one of the guys chicks like her ignore cause they’re too easy and too boring.
In her interview she could have said, “I deliberately chose exciting cheaters over reliable nice guys.” But that would be too honest, so we have to get some euphemisms instead.
Truths rarely admitted: “There’s nothing more powerful in our culture than a beautiful woman.” But it’s coming from a gay guy, and gay guys, like comedians, can utter truths the rest of us will face a PC pillory for stating. Most gay guys aren’t PC; they know sexual market value (SMW) too well to be PC. Most PC people will admit dark truths if they’re stated correctly.
But there is more context
He said he feels enormous empathy for women who get frightened about their looks fading. “There’s nothing more powerful in our culture than a beautiful woman,” he said. But “it’s an unsustainable thing. One day it stops. And I have lived through it with so many female friends and part of my job is to imagine myself, the female version of myself, would I want to wear that? Where would I go in it? How would I feel in it? Would I feel vulnerable?”(Mr. Ford said if he were a woman, he would be Ali MacGraw.)
It is unsustainable. It fades fast. We name it “the wall” but you can name it whatever you want to name it. I feel bad for some of these women too… they might understand intellectually that it’s coming, but they don’t prepare for it and one day it BOOM hits them. A lot of guys online are pretty gleeful about that but I don’t share their glee, as beauty is only slightly less fleeting than life itself.
Annoyingly, we don’t get a link to the t-shirt mentioned
He used to tailor white T-shirts he bought at La Rinascente in Milan, but now he wears his own brand. “The cut of the sleeve has to be just right if you want your biceps to look right,” he said.
I did look around the Tom Ford website and clothes there are stupid expensive. Part of combining “Fashion and clothes for players” with Mr. Money Mustache is not spending stupid amounts of money on clothes. I still want to understand the cut of the sleeve thing.
Most fashion guys understand that the human social effect comes from successful attention to numerous details. Players who aren’t naturals eventually learn the same.
“Rom-Coms Were Corny and Retrograde. Why Do I Miss Them so Much?” is an article where the title is the article. Rom-coms are porn for chicks because they feature a high-status male eventually committing to one woman, often below his SMV. Despite the feminist dream of a vibrator, cat, ugly pants, and low grooming standards, most chicks still want a guy or two or three and a family. Even chicks who identify as “feminists” want what most chicks want. Just like guys who identify as “feminists” still want to sleep with multiple chicks (if they can, and some can).
It’s funny when feminists admit their desires are pretty conventional.
“He Cheated in an Open Marriage” gives you a flavor of what happens when a higher-status guy is getting older and is in an “open” marriage/relationship. If a guy keeps working on his game, body, and value, his sexual market value (SMV) will outpace his wife/partner’s from age 30 onward. Or age 35 onward, depending on the couple. This produces a strong incentive for the guy to push the relationship’s boundary.
The greater the disparity between the SMV in a couple, the greater the temptation to do such things.
The venue in which the story is being published is also notable, as the whole issue is devoted to what’s happening to marriage (from women’s perspective, naturally). Under current divorce law, every woman who makes less than her partner is incented to marry that partner if she can. No woman wants to directly admit that, however.
Poly/open is becoming more common in the overall culture. Smart guys will figure out how to leverage this trend.
Your male competitors choose video games, fast food, and Internet porn over real-life sex. That’s my takeaway, and the media is too straight-laced to speak the truth. Most chicks are getting f**ked by a smaller number of dudes than they used to. Do you want to be one of those dudes, or do you want to play video games and jerk off?
Next time you want to play video games, hit the gym and track your progress on the bench press and dead lift. Watch those numbers go up and to the right.
I am not fond of the ubiquitous “alpha” and “beta” male labels, yet sometimes they just fit, as they do with this week in the life of a subsidized beta male. There are two notable things in this story, or, I should say, absent from this story: the gym never appears and cold approaching never appears. This guy could likely improve his life substantially through both. He doesn’t, and he doesn’t understand chicks, so he is a safe, boring choice for chicks who have nothing better to do. He has a fake, girl-like job, and that fake, girl-like job should give him some access to chicks but he seems not to leverage it. This is a guy who needs to learn to stop hiding his dick.
He lets a Tinder date come over, sleep in his bed, and he doesn’t bother f**king her. No wonder she’s unimpressed and disappointed. She came over to get f**ked and he couldn’t even do that. This is an example of “what not to do;” if a chick comes over to your apartment to spend the night, she wants to get f**ked. He seems to be getting some sex but he lacks the fundamentals and killer instinct needed to consistently f**k, and f**k hotter chicks.
At age 18 or 20 this guy’s mistakes could be seen as part of growing up, but at age 30 they are pretty sad.
Weird. A woman writes an essay about toxic femininity and how “Women are not monolithic. Pretending they are holds everyone back.” It could be a worse essay, but I’m surprised to see it at all.