“You cannot negotiate genuine desire.”

You cannot negotiate genuine desire” is one of the most important concepts in game and life. The actual title of Rollo’s post is “Transactional vs. validation sex,” but “You cannot negotiate genuine desire.” Pretty much any guy who’s been in a long-term relationship will relate to the point.

Guys who haven’t been in a long-term relationship should be working on their game rather than reading about the distant future, but once game starts working it’s a good idea to know what the future holds.

 

“Women hardest hit.” Also, don’t get married.

Women hardest hit” is another chapter in the great book of “don’t get married.”

One of the changes in the new tax law involves the tax status of alimony.  Previously the payor (men) could deduct the money they pay in alimony, and the payee (women) would have it taxed as income.   Starting with divorces commenced after Dec 31 2018, alimony payments will be treated like child support payments have been.  Men won’t be able to deduct the amount they pay from their income, and women won’t have to pay taxes on alimony received.

You would expect that the pro divorce lobby (nearly everyone) would be cheering this enhancement to the cash and prizes we offer as a reward to women who don’t honor their wedding vows.  However, the problem is ex husbands are already being bled white.  It has gotten so bad that the parasite is now expressing concern for the host.  All of the articles I could find on the subject object to the changes, not because they object to soaking men for women’s benefit, but because the change is seen as potentially hurting women.

If you are a man you are a wallet to the larger society. No one gives a shit about you except to the extent you can do something for them. You’re disposable to most people and to the greater society. Marriage is just a way of giving a woman half your assets and future income.

Marriage made sense in the distant past but it makes no sense today. Want to have kids? Just have kids, get a DNA test, and skip the marriage. You’ll still be liable for child support if/when your former partner gets restless, but at least you won’t be hit up for alimony too.

“The Takedown of Title IX:” The horror show on college campuses

The Takedown of Title IX” is overdue. College campuses have become frenzied hothouses of false rape allegations, and on campus Title IX has become a tool of iniquity. It should be repealed altogether.

Something funny happened on the way to the courtroom, though: men started to realize that they could sue schools for Title IX violations. Now that schools actively discriminate against men and persecute men, Title IX can become a weapon that men use.

It sucks to write a paragraph like the paragraph above, but above all else it’s important to speak the truth.

Men need to read The Myth of Male Power. Modern feminism is wrong; men are exploited by the larger culture and then told that women win the oppression olympics. The feminist worldview is wrong, but I would also discourage men from seeing themselves as victims. But men need to understand the world we live in.

Men also need to learn game. Game is not a perfect antidote to false rape accusations, but you can bet that it’s rarely the highest-status guys who get accused.

 

Why a guy should never marry, as described by women

I Can’t Afford to Divorce My Rich Husband” is an amazing example of what RP guys like to call “female hamstering.” In this piece, “Eliza, 31, wants a divorce. Both she and her husband, Sam, have changed a lot since they got together in their early 20s.” But, “The problem is Sam makes a lot more money than Eliza. She teaches English at a high school, and she’s dependent on Sam’s income (he’s an investment banker) for a part of their expenses, including the mortgage on their house.”

The advice given to her is simple: take him for everything she can:

Bahn would know. Three years ago, her husband walked out, thrusting her into a financial bind: She had recently decided — with her husband’s encouragement — to quit her job to focus on her dissertation while he supported them. Without him, she couldn’t pay rent, let alone afford legal counsel. But before putting her Ph.D. on hold to frantically search for a job, Bahn discovered that she was entitled to support during divorce proceedings. This is known as pendente lite relief: The less-monied spouse (usually a woman) can petition the court to receive “reasonable” coverage for legal fees and living expenses until a divorce agreement is finalized. This is something you should consider.

So what does this woman, Eliza, bring to the marriage? Nothing. She doesn’t even have kids with her husband. She’s going to get a ton of money for putting nothing whatsoever into the marriage, except perhaps sex, assuming sex is worth anything.

This guy was probably young and dumb when he got married, and he probably didn’t realize how much money he’d end up paying when his wife loses interest in him. He’ll learn the hard way, like so many guys.

Guys should read this and remind themselves: Do not get married. At all. Ever.

 

“Memoir of Growing Up Fat Forces France to Look in the Mirror,” yeah, no kidding

Memoir of Growing Up Fat Forces France to Look in the Mirror.”  That’s because fatties are gross. Not only are they gross, but they demonstrate a lack of some combination of intelligence, conscientiousness, and knowledge. Intelligence, because they might not understand why the sugar they stuff in their faces makes them fat; conscientiousness, because they may understand but lack the willpower to change; or knowledge, because they may simply not know or never have been told.

Do you want to hire a stupid, lazy, or ignorant person? Neither do I. Unless they work cheap.

This is total nonsense:

Unlike in the United States, where TV regularly features programs urging viewers to take a positive view of their bodies

It is true that TV features fat acceptance, but in the real world of dating markets and employment markets things are quite different. Even if someone will try to virtue-signal about fat acceptance, in reality no one who can avoid dating such people will date them.

Every loser guy who hits the Internet gets the same advice: hit the gym, quit sugar, quit video games, develop hobbies that bring you into contact with other people, and learn how to dress yourself. TV, video games, and social media suck up insane amounts of time, and quitting them allows a man to better himself.

The more a guy is in shape in a  fat society, the more he stands out.

I’ve met lots of overweight women via online dating, although only by accident when they lie in pictures. I don’t want to date them, but I sometimes invite the ones who seem nice to the gym. Very few come. Of those who come, almost none come more than once. Fat people primarily have themselves to blame, at least those who are past the age of majority. I’m that obnoxious guy who, in the presence of a fat chick hitting on him, only talks about the gym and dieting. Boring topics, but the right topic around fat chicks.

“She’ll accept the value proposition you’re offering at the start”

She’ll accept the value proposition you’re offering at the start, whatever the form. The guy sets the frame, and it’s hard to change once in place.”

Does this sound familiar? I wrote an essay, “Women want to follow your lead: a story about a woman presenting two ways,” covering similar territory.

The more you know about women, the more you get that the vast majority live in a gray area, not in black or white. Maybe some (the religious, the dedicated polyamorous)  live in a black or white world, but the vast majority don’t.