“What to say to girls | a structure for a daygame stack” is a good antidote to that last ramble post: nice and actionable. Very good especially for guys who are getting into the field or want a primer.
From Nash: “Magnum Game with Black Dragon influence.” An excellent post. I love reading game writers because they make me realize my game is not nearly as strong as I used to think. Like, the offering two dates, two days apart is golden. So is the detailed text game. The two-dates thing is a good idea and the text game is better than mine. I’ve tended to do one date, time, and place, all in the same text, under the theory that it’s good leading. But it’s probably overly specific and does indeed run into walls at times.
In reading not just this but some of the other good game blogs, I’ve also realized that I’ve probably overly focused on chicks can be described sex positive (my preferred way) or sluts (a common female-female social framing I dislike). I’ve likely lost a lot of chicks due to sheer impatience. I’ve probably polarized too strong too early and likely driven a lot of chicks away. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve done fine, but there’s a huge gap between “fine” and “optimal” (a sentence I say over and over again at work).
My guess, reading posts like Magnum Game, is that I’ve leaned heavily into nutrition and sport/lifting and my technical game has atrophied or never sufficiently developed as a result. I have some serious strengths, like an ability to endure rejection and good cocky-funny, coupled with some weaknesses that I’ve never really worked on enough. Some chicks say no and I just move on. Often without putting in the Magnum work.
Like: in online dating, I’ve experimented with rope pics and mentions of BDSM. They’re extremely polarizing. A lot of chicks will ignore me or say mean things when I foreground those interests. But the chicks are into it, are really into it, and they’re usually ready for first-date sex.
It’s common and correct to point out that many chicks into rope and bondage are fat. But there are very pretty chicks who are into it as well and who are looking for guy with good game and a decent body who is on their level. That’s where I come in. I’ve found them at times and it’s been good.
A couple days ago I got rejected, hard, twice by very pretty girls on bikes. Also asked out one of my kids’ teachers (very gently and with a cheeky smile and long pre-amble about how she should feel free to say no, but I have to ask). She was flattered but also said no.
“What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity” doesn’t go full Red Pill, but it gets closer than is typical.
This also supports my basic point: don’t get married.
Some guys still believe that long-term monogamy is possible today. I don’t. Once a guy accepts that, a lot of other things will fall into place.
Good Looking Loser reappeared, for the first time since 2016, with a 3,500-word post, “The Most Important Good Looking Loser Concepts to Get Your Sex Life Right.” It’s a rehash of the rest of the site, but that’s fine, because the site is more or less “complete.” It can be read like a book. There is garbage on that site (supplements, “bath mate,” anything involving the word “gorilla” or “Cernovich,” who is a clown attempting to lead a sad army), but if you ignore the garbage and focus on getting laid, you’ll do all right. If you really want to “max out,” your looks, that is.
It’s a site most targeted at underperforming guys in their teens and 20s. It’s less useful for the 40+ crowd, where guys should still work on their looks but are realistically not going to be as cut as 23-year-old guys.
Chris also never goes “all the way.” He says he’s getting married (I hope he has a hell of a prenup). He rarely, maybe never, goes beyond conventional 1:1 dating and into sex clubs. Maybe he’s not into that kind of thing. To me it’s a pre-selected venue for highly-sexed women.
GLL is also annoying because Chris is trying to push bogus supplements. I think he should just get a real, honest job, rather than trying to con guys with supplements, etc. So I am not endorsing everything on his blog by any means.
(This blog will eventually die too, or decline into theoretical rants. I’m not as driven by sex as I was in my teens, twenties, or early thirties. I don’t have as much to say about it beyond what I’ve already said, and other guys, like Krauser and Tom Torero, have far better step-by-step material than me.)
I tried submitting “The Most Important Good Looking Loser Concepts to Get Your Sex Life Right” to the seduction page of Reddit, and I got the following message from “ThrowawayPUA”
GLL is banned from seddit for a variety of good reasons.
Don’t join them.
If you’ve wandered over here from Reddit, you now know why Reddit is filled with newbie material. There’s nothing wrong with newbie material (almost all of us have been there), but the intermediate/advanced material is all on blogs or in books. Think about a person who would willingly moderate Reddit… then think about how Reddit works via voting, regardless of the person voting… now you understand. Beginner guys and anger phase guys cannot comprehend the challenges and problems faced by intermediate or advanced guys. That is fine, that is the nature of being a beginner in almost any field, but it also cauterizes the intermediate/advanced discussion.
While I’m writing this, the top post on seduction is “A Rant from a girl: Why it isn’t working for you…” No link because it’s typical stupid girl stuff, a mix of things that are kind of true some of the time and things that are downright wrong, and it has 600 upvotes. Meanwhile, the last the couple deep, complex posts from Nash got like four upvotes. Posts from random, incorrect chicks and posts from guys who are like, “I learned how to just be myself and talk to chicks” jump to the top of Reddit because they cater to the 70% of guys on the bottom.
If you’re spending time on Reddit, you’re among the sheep who lead the other sheep. There is some utility, but to learn something beyond “just be confident,” go somewhere else. Newbies often lack the capacity to understand what good advice is. Think back to school and the stupid, noisy person in class trying to one-up the teacher or professor. That person doesn’t know what they don’t know.
“You cannot negotiate genuine desire” is one of the most important concepts in game and life. The actual title of Rollo’s post is “Transactional vs. validation sex,” but “You cannot negotiate genuine desire.” Pretty much any guy who’s been in a long-term relationship will relate to the point.
Guys who haven’t been in a long-term relationship should be working on their game rather than reading about the distant future, but once game starts working it’s a good idea to know what the future holds.
“Women hardest hit” is another chapter in the great book of “don’t get married.”
One of the changes in the new tax law involves the tax status of alimony. Previously the payor (men) could deduct the money they pay in alimony, and the payee (women) would have it taxed as income. Starting with divorces commenced after Dec 31 2018, alimony payments will be treated like child support payments have been. Men won’t be able to deduct the amount they pay from their income, and women won’t have to pay taxes on alimony received.
You would expect that the pro divorce lobby (nearly everyone) would be cheering this enhancement to the cash and prizes we offer as a reward to women who don’t honor their wedding vows. However, the problem is ex husbands are already being bled white. It has gotten so bad that the parasite is now expressing concern for the host. All of the articles I could find on the subject object to the changes, not because they object to soaking men for women’s benefit, but because the change is seen as potentially hurting women.
If you are a man you are a wallet to the larger society. No one gives a shit about you except to the extent you can do something for them. You’re disposable to most people and to the greater society. Marriage is just a way of giving a woman half your assets and future income.
Marriage made sense in the distant past but it makes no sense today. Want to have kids? Just have kids, get a DNA test, and skip the marriage. You’ll still be liable for child support if/when your former partner gets restless, but at least you won’t be hit up for alimony too.